The Adjustment Period

Hey friends! I hope you’re doing well and that you’re enjoying spring. Life here in Europe has been quite an adventure these past 3 weeks, so I figuredย  it’s time to give you a little insight on what’s happening with Dan and I. ๐Ÿ™‚

First things first, everything arrived! The same day I showed up, so did our household goods and it was a whirlwind. Honestly, the biggest pet peeve I have at the moment is that I can’t find my umbrella- maybe it got lost in the move… and I really need it here because it rains a LOT. Oh well, anyway, settling in has been slow for a few reasons. 1. We have a LOT of damage. Basically everything we own has damage of some kind and some of our things aren’t able to be used at this time (think dining room table), so that’s been hard. 2. I got a job! I started 4 days after landing and I LOVE IT! I work for a contracting company that runs a program that serves as an extra layer of security for our base- so basically I talk to people all day long and welcome them to our base or wish them the best as they move on and everything in-between. Finally, 3. Dan has been preparing for “mission” (Army speak for small deployment).

So combine all those factors and life has been insane. So after not even being in Europe for a month, Dan has left for mission. Thankfully it’s not terribly long but it could be a lot shorter. The hardest part of this for me is that I don’t have many friends here, so this is truly a time for me to spread my wings and stand out on my own. I’m grateful for the opportunity to stand on my own and take care of everything HOWEVER, I REALLY wish Dan could’ve stayed home until we had the house finished (we’re almost done).

While Dan is gone, I will have plenty to keep me busy. Between exploring with friends, trying to fix our internet (our large computer is currently on the coffee table because the internet doesn’t work upstairs -_-), getting the echo out of my home, and work… I’m HOPING mission passes quickly.

As for things that have been hard to get used to… all the recycling. I love it and hate it because I have to make sure everything is in their proper bins however, it’s totally worth it to save the planet. The language barrier isn’t as bad as Japan, and I have co-workers who are helping me practice my language skills (everyone in the building is bi-lingual!). The driving signs are weird as well! Thankfully though, we’re on the same side as the US- no more feeling like we’r’e going to drive into oncoming traffic like in Japan! (Yes, that was a very real thing.) Also, the windmills are beautiful especially with the yellow flower fields that have been blooming. I don’t have a good photo of them since we’re always driving when we see them, but if I find a spot to take a still photo- I’ll share it because it truly looks like something out of a storybook. I also adore all the little towns! Seriously, I don’t miss Walmart or Target (yet). The biggest store I’ve seen is Ikea and it is so much more amazing here than in the US (sorry America, Europe wins with Ikea- including the food.) Finally, I’m still not used to living on an Army base. I recently learned we have an artillery field nearby- by hearing large booms that scared me to death (I hate loud noises).

Overall, we haven’t had a lot of time to have a ton of fun or do much traveling yet. However, when Dan gets home we have already started making plans. ๐Ÿ™‚ For those of you praying for us, please continue to do so. Dan is struggling with leaving for mission so quickly after arriving and I am struggling here since I was not fully set up before he left (had to go get my drivers license today!). Please pray that we both stay safe and healthy while we’re apart and that our reunion is sooner than we expect (dates fluctuate more in the Army it seems). Also, please be praying for me as I try to establish my tribe here and finish settling in as a whole. Finally, please pray that we can be a positive light in our community- showing and sharing the love of Christ with those around us.

We love you all and wish you enough.

XOXO,

De

5 years down… Forever to Go!

Hi friends! I’m so sorry this post is late. Life has been crazy and while I keep writing to you in my head- I figure it’s time to put those thoughts down for you to enjoy. ๐Ÿ˜‰ So, as you’ve probably figured out from my title, Dan and I celebrated 5 years of marriage this past January! Can you believe it?! We certainly can’t- but we’re grateful for our journey together and with each passing year we’ve come to work together better and better. Honestly, our marriage is like a fine wine, getting better and better with each passing year. ๐Ÿ™‚

So please allow me to share with you a recap of our 5th year of marriage. In our 5th year of marriage:

-Dan went to bootcamp (again)- this time for the Army.

-De began (and completed) IV Lyme therapy (and feels back to her old self!)

-Dan commissioned in the Army and is officially Lt. Dan. (ALL.THE.JOKES.)

-De was involved with 3 weddings.

-Dan re-enlisted his long-time friend into the Navy (he found a loophole of ANY Officer can perform the ceremony)

-We moved in 10 days (find a place, organize, and get there) for Dan’s training.

-We received orders and will move to Europe in the spring!!!! (Yes, it’s still exciting to us)

-We hosted Christmas for our parents at our apartment since it was halfway between them- and had a blast.

This past year was tough simply because we were apart so long and so often. However, the Lord is our strength and we managed to handle it well. We’re excited to see what our 6th year of marriage brings as we embark on yet another adventure. Ya’ll, I’m so happy I married my best friend- we truly have an amazing life.

Thanks for sharing life with us and please continue to pray for us as we prepare for yet another move. I love you all and wish you enough.

XOXO,

De

Counting Every Blessing

Hey everyone! I pray you are enjoying your fall. Is it just me or did fall literally come in a day? Seriously, it was in the 80’s here and then it just plummeted to the low 70’s to even the high 50’s. Where did my 75 degree weather go?! Anyway, that’s not what I’m here to write you about- you know the weather. Instead, I’ll share my heart with what God is doing in our lives.

So let’s start with this: you all know that Dan graduated from OCS and is now officially Lt. Dan! (See last post- and yes, he’s gotten at least 10 Forest Gump meme’s on Facebook alone LOL- no I did not post a SINGLE ONE.) Well, now he is in VA for training- till March. Logic would dictate that he would be put up into a hotel and that I would visit when I could (which I do anyway but I’m getting ahead of myself). However, upon arrival he was informed that he would be required to PCS (MOVE) to VA for training- oh and there’s no availability on base. (Are you seeing the panic here? Because there was slight panic…). So… Dan and I took a couple of DAYS (Literally 2 days) and found a lovely apartment about 10 minutes from base. Within 10 days we found our place, signed the lease and MOVED OUR STUFF to our 3rd FLOOR apartment. Shout out to our parents who didn’t complain once and were willing and happy to help us out.

Now that we’re mostly moved in, we really like it. However, we’ve decided not to fully unpack since we will be moving in about 5 months anyway… have to love living half unpacked. To give you an idea, our movies are in a tote and I have no plans to take them out of said tote just to put them back in the tote to move again. The good news is that even with only being “partially moved-in” I would say that it still has a “home” feel to it.

But would you like to know the best part? I (as in me, De) am not fully moved in. Instead, I have clothes here and things still in NC.ย So over the next few months I have to finish moving in with Dan. It’s been made interesting since I still have my port in my chest. I can live with Dan through the week but I have to see my mom by Sunday for a dressing change. So, it’s interesting around here to say the least. We travel literally every weekend.

HOWEVER, I have news for you all!!! Yes- I’m so excited I can barely contain myself. I am asking for prayer as I FINISH IV THERAPY!!!!!! Let me make this even better, On November 29,2018 at 8am I have surgery to NO LONGER BE A CYBORG!!!!!!!! Can you even comprehend this?? I will be able to go for a run and take a real shower- no more washing my hair over the side of the tub!!!!! I can’t begin to say how excited I am, and quite frankly I doubt anything I write could completely convey it.

So God has answered my prayers! I am finally going to be free of my port and back to only oral antibiotics to finish beating this Lyme beast down! But wait… there’s more news!!! Seriously ya’ll, God is blessing us in ways I could only dream of! So let me fill you in on our even more amazing news!

As ya’ll know, Dan is in the Army and one of the great joys (agonies) of military life is never knowing where you’re going next. For the last several months I have stayed with my family while Dan has been in training and now we are on the East Coast while he finishes his school for his new job. It’s been a long haul, but we’ve been waiting for orders to know where we’ll be living for the next few years. Seriously, the wait was agony and it was the day Dan was going to write his Detailer (Man who gives us orders) and request his top 5 choices with explanations. BUT GOD (ya’ll know this is my favorite saying)… BUT GOD went before Dan. He got orders!!

EUROPE!

That’s right! We’re moving to Europe for 3 years! It’s a dream come true and we’re beyond excited.

Thanks for sharing in our journey. Soon you’ll be getting stories from across the pond! We love you all and wish you enough.

XOXO,

De

 

 

The Results Are In!

Hey everyone! Life for Dan and I has been pretty boring lately. School has been consuming Dan and thus, I haven’t had the computer. Sorry it’s taken so long for me to update you. Although, to be fully honest I had to take some time to digest everything. Though, I have a lot to share with you medically, I also have some fantastic news. So let me start with the good, before I tell you what’s new with just me. ๐Ÿ˜‰ (By the way, I’ve been writing to you for a while in my head… you just can’t read it till I put it down here…)

So to begin… Dan. You know, that loveable, crazy, amazing man I married? Yeah, him. Well, he has been working so hard- in fact he’s on his last week of ย 18 credits in 8 weeks. Ya’ll I can’t even express how proud I am of him for doing so well in all 6 of his classes. (Yes, 6 class at once for 8 weeks- I told you we haven’t had a life). While he’s been doing this, he has managed to take me to doctors appointments, visit my family in North Carolina, and somehow still help me a bit around the house all while keeping his grades up. Did I mention these are law classes? So needless to say, it’s been tough for him (keep those prayers coming please!). Anyway, once this week is over (finals are on Sunday) he only has one more class until he is officially GRADUATED!!! Let me say this again- HE HAS ONE CLASS TILL GRADUATION!!!!!! To say that we’re excited is a bit of an understatement. He’s been working so hard since I got sick to finish his degree, and it’s finally here!!

So that’s my fantastic news- just had to brag on my hubby for a bit. Now, to tell you what’s going on with me. ๐Ÿ™‚ The good news is, I don’t have anything insane. Remember, the spinal tap? They tested for EVERYTHING. Fungus, brain tumor, bacteria- you name it they tested for it. Fortunately (yet unfortunately) the results are negative. There was nothing determinable in my spinal fluid. So my neurologist has put me on new anti-seizure medications (the first two caused allergic reactions- not fun) and has claimed that it is Lyme and Bartonella in my brain. Fun, right? I seriously thought we were done with this stuff.. guess not.

A couple weeks after the spinal tap, I got the final results form my Lyme culture… the one taken in February or March. As it turns out, I am not in remission. My Lyme and Bartonella are in full effect. Which ironically, was a relief to me since I’m still having balance problems, seizures, and I run into things (I promise I see the door frame but for some reason I still bump into it). Digesting that I’m not in remission like I had hoped, has been a process. I can’t say that I’m shocked, but I will say that I’m sad that this fight isn’t over yet. Two years is a LONG time for anyone to be ill. Dan has been great this whole time, though the spinal tap really freaked him out.

So what is to be done now with my Lyme/Bartonella? My current Lyme doctor has me on a new antibiotic. However, I’m not feeling any different. With Lyme, if you feel like crap, it’s killing the bacteria, if you feel fine… it’s not doing anything. Unfortunately, I feel fine currently. I have an appointment to see him at the beginning of August and hopefully create a treatment plan. If he doesn’t know what to do for me, then I will have to make an appointment with a very specialized doctor in Washington, D.C. Ya’ll, I don’t want to do it- the cost is enormous, but I know my health is worth more. So, please pray that my local doctor can figure me out.

As for our fun adventures. We’ve only had one since we last spoke. Dan and I spent the weekend of the 4th in North Carolina. It was great to see my parents and we also got to catch up with our friends Kevin and Rachel. Did I also mention, that one of my best friends, Beka turned 25? Well, she did and so we were able to make it to her birthday party! (That was the main reason we went to N.C…. shhh don’t tell the others ๐Ÿ˜‰ ). It was really warm, and Dan had a ton of homework but it was still great to be able to spend time and see everyone. It’s hard when you live so far away from some great friends and family. (Though, we are blessed to be 15 minutes from Dan’s parents and oldest sister.)

Anyway, that’s been our life. Dan in school, me doing what I can to help him and processing what to do for me as our time here will come to a close soon-ish. We’re praying Dan gets his contract soon (August..?) and that the transition to officer goes smoothly for him. Though, we’re not sure when he would be leaving for OCS (Officer Candidate School). When he goes, I will be able to stay behind, and hopefully function lol. I do have a friend who is willing to move in with me when the time comes so that way I’m not alone and she can help me do things I can’t (mowing, vacuuming.. anything loud).

For those of you who have been praying for us these past 2 years. THANK YOU. We always feel so blessed when someone tells us that we are in their thoughts and prayers. I ask that you would continue to pray for us as we continue to navigate the medical waters for me. Also, please pray for Dan as he finishes his degree- senior-itis is REAL. We love you all and thank you for sharing in our journey.

XOXO,

De

De’s Next Steps

Hey everyone! I finally have some news to share with you regarding my health. ๐Ÿ˜€ It’s taken Dan and I both some time to digest everything but now that we’re going in a clear direction, I feel ready to share what’s going on in our journey with you. It’s been aย long road from where we started (22 months and counting) and I NEVER thought it would take this long to get back to health (and I’m still not back yet- yikes).

However, let’s not focus on the negative and let’s get you caught up to speed. ๐Ÿ˜‰ So- a few months ago we found out that Bartonella is still in my system (it’s a co-infection of Lyme disease, which I have but MAY be in remission… we’ll know for sure in a few more months). My Lyme doctor gave me new antibiotics in hopes that would treat the Bartonella, but since I’ve been having a lot of neurological symptoms requested that I go see a neurologist. Apparently having your vision go blurry, loosing your balance, brain fog, and a host of other things simply isn’t normal- go figure lol. So, just to be on the safe side, a neurological consultation would be in my best interest.

It took a while, but after seeing my family doctor he agreed with my Lyme doctor. So, I went to see a neurologist. During this time, we figured out that the antibiotics that the Lyme doctor had put me on weren’t touching a thing. In fact, they just made me miserable (insert insomnia state here… ugh)- so my Lyme doctor said the words that make every patient’s world come crashing down, “I’m not sure what to do for you right now..”. So he has to wait for neurology to see if that essentially makes him “un-stuck (fun, right?).

So what did the neurologist say? After reviewing my MRI and EEG that I had done specifically for her, there is a brain lesion in the right frontal lobe which is essentially bigger and more predominate than before. The EEG read abnormal as well. The appointment however, was encouraging considering. Basically, whatever is in my body has gone into my spine and up spinal fluid to leak into my brain. Due to where the brain lesion is, the neurologist just wants to rule everything out before she makes a call on how to go about treating what is essentially infecting my brain. She does believe in Lyme and a type of Lyme that is hard to treat, and she did seem to be open to the possibility that this could be Lyme or Bartonella in my brain (which is the belief of some of my other doctors).

So what is the plan? The first thing we’re doing is to switch my anti-seizure medication. Prayerfully this new stuff (which I believe is ultimately stronger) will work. The next thing is a spinal tap which is being done on Friday, May 5th at 11:30 (prayers for me and the doctor please). After that I see the neurologist again on May 30th to discussion treatment options (though when we talked in her office, IV therapy was already being discussed…).

This is where we’re at right now. It’s not a lot of answers, but it is a step in the right direction. I am praying that this is our answer, that this is the beginning of where I start to fully come back to living. Right now I am sleeping a lot, and most days it hard to function, prayerfully they can figure out why and give me something to fix the problem altogether and help give me a life back. However, I know who holds my future and I trust He has a purpose and a plan for this.

For those of you who are praying for us, THANK YOU. I am asking that you continue to do so. I know that it’s been a long (almost) 2 years. I never would have imagined it would take this long to get to where I am, and certainly I would’ve thought I would be completely better by now. However, that is not the case. Please be praying that this anti-seizure medicine is the medicine I need. Dan and I are dying to get back to church, but until I can handle lights and sound and crowds, church is simply not a possibility- and for the two extraverts that we are… it’s hard. Also, please be praying for me and the doctors tomorrow (May 5th) as I have my spinal tap. Finally, as always- please be praying for Dan as he is always by my side and watching me go through this. If you’ve ever had a sick spouse, you know it’s hard but with a chronically ill spouse the dynamic changes to climbing Everest. He is truly the strongest man I know, and he never stops loving or caring for me- even when things get hard or scary (like when my chest decides to randomly start hurting but I know better than to go to the ER because they say my heart is fine.. yup, Dan is awesome ya’ll). So please, don’t forget to lift him up in your prayers- also… he’s almost done with school- so he could use the extra support there. ๐Ÿ˜‰

If you want to know how we’re handling it all- to be brutally honest, it’s a little overwhelming. The idea that I have a brain lesion from something in my body that is essentially trying to take over- just sounds like something out of a sci-fy movie to me. None of this seems like it is real or even possible- it all started with me just feeling a little tired and being weak. To have escalated into all of this, just blows my mind. Everyday I am humbled and reminded that I am not who I used to be. Yet, I remember that my life is a testimony to the One who can do great things He will use this forย something goodย (although I have no idea what it is yet)- and that is what I am putting my trust in. That God will use this for good and that I will not be beaten by whatever is trying to overtake my body- instead I will fight and by the grace of God, overcome it.

Thanks for sharing in our journey with us. We love you and thank God for you.

xoxo,

De

 

 

Learning True Love… A Valentine’s Update

 

 

Hey everyone! Thanks for keeping up with our journey. I know that I’m not always the best at writing lately, and truth be told it’s because I have a lot to process (I’ll explain- I promise.) But also, I don’t want to bog you down with “well today I woke up at 2pm and laid around watching Netflix because I had about as much energy as a sloth”. It’s a far cry from what anyone wants to share about their life and a farther cry from what someone else would want to hear. Don’t fret- for those of you who have been praying, I will give you an update on my health. But please allow me to share what’s on my heart first.

My husband. Ya’ll know about Dan- and if you have had the pleasure of meeting Dan, then you probably have never forgotten him. He is charismatic, funny, and can make anyone around him comfortable. He also has a smile to that’s to die for. We have had a LOT of time together these past 19 moths (yes- it’s been that long that I’ve been ill- and yes I’m still counting… no, I don’t have a time frame of when I’ll be better. But that’s not my point here… bear with me) and it’s something that I’ve truly cherished. The time we’ve had is something that most only get when they’re retired. We wake up together, we eat together, we get groceries together, we do errands together, doctors appointments together, cook together, I mean you think of it, we’re rarely apart unless Dan has some weird training thing or an errand that I simply don’t have energy or the desire to do. This is unheard of for a young couple in their 20’s and yet it is something that we’re able to do because the military understands that I cannot live on my own. Some couples, would be sick of each other by now, but we are grateful- yet it’s a hard situation.

Dan looked at me the other day driving down the road, and very casually said “You know I will never leave you, right?” I replied, “Well, yeah.” He said, “Good.” And thus began our conversation which I probably took for granted. My husband is truly a superhero. The woman he married, the young, vibrant, energetic, perfectionist who is super capable has gone through a lot these past 19- months (you know that). But standing beside me the whole time was my strong but worried, loving husband. He never once wavered, never once left my side and I even remember him carrying me around the house so I could still have some independence. My husband has shown me what true love looks like. He’s not always great at romance with flowers, and candlelight dinners. But he has never once let me walk this very long, hard road alone- even when it gets hard for me he is behind me pushing me and telling me that I am stronger than I think.

When I was young, I thought love was always in feeling. I thought it was the teddy bears, flowers, candles and romantic dinners. Now, my opinion has changed. Love to me is my darling husband who every time I have a random chest pain gives me the most concerned look. Love is him snuggling up next to me to keep me warmer because my Reynolds Syndrome is acting up and I’m like an ice cube. Love is him telling me that they will stop the xy and z problems and that I’ll get my health back and even if I’m never 100% back, that he’ll love me just the same, that is true love to me. I just needed to let you know how blessed I truly am. ๐Ÿ™‚

In case you didn’t know, I love my husband. ๐Ÿ˜‰ He really is a super hero- I swear, and not just because the back of his uniform looks like a cape. (Sorry, that was corny, but I had to..) Anyway, I’ve been sitting on this information for a while. I needed some time to absorb it, understand it, process it, and go to the doctor to figure out what we’re going to do about it. My Lyme culture came back negative. Normally, this is where I would jump up and down and throw a party and say “Beasties beaten!!” and claim remission. But not this time. This feels different, I don’t feel better. In fact, one day I was without my anti-seizure medication and I started to convulse again- not good! Therefore, I know something is up! Back to the Lyme doctor I go- luckily he’s amazing and doesn’t think I’m making this up.

Basically, here’s the scoop: When I had my Lyme culture taken, I was only off antibiotics for 4 weeks, however I had been taking antibiotics for over a year- meaning I was still probably more antibiotic than human at that point. So, he wants a Lyme Culture redo and to check me for ALL co-infections (it’s a LOT of blood)- I haven’t done this yet, because my sleep cycle is a little wonky and I need to be awake in the morning, since the bugs are more active in the afternoon. He believes that my Lyme could be in remission but that I could have a co-infection(s) that are making things difficult.

One reason he thinks it’s a co-infection in the brain is because of a test he does for balance. He tests the equilibrium to see if you will catch yourself or if someone else will have to catch you. To give you an idea, I have NO balance. To perform the test youย stand with your feet together, arms to the sides, head back, eyes closed. You should have your equilibrium catch you and not fall- I’ll fall. Last time we did this at the Dr.’s – Dan had to catch be because the Dr accidentally let me go too far- oops. ๐Ÿ˜€

I’m also now on a new thyroid medication. Praise the Lord!!! I’m praying that this helps with the sleep problem and the energy of the sloth problem. (If you thought I was kidding in the intro- sorry, I wasn’t.) My anti-seizure medication has also been upped and may need to be changed depending on how things go. So, overall I’m a bit of a mess but we’re working on patching me back up. My Lyme doctor is amazing and everyone in this area trusts him- I just have to wait for my test results, which I can’t get until I go get the blood taken, which I can’t do until I wake up. It’s a vicious cycle.

Thank you to those of you who are praying for Dan and I. We appreciate it more than words can say. Because of my seizures, we have had to cease going to church due to the loud sounds, lights, crowds, frequencies, ect until I get them controlled- it’s been very draining on us. The Lord created us both as extroverts- we NEED people, so we are doing our best to get our fellowship in elsewhere and get our worship in at home until I can go back. Please know that we love you all, we appreciate your prayers and your support- this has been a really long, hard journey on both of us and we know that it’s not over yet. We’re grateful that we serve a God who sustains us and gives us just what we need as we need it.

We love you all and wish you enough. Happy Valentines Day!

XOXO,

De

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Three Years Down… Forever To Go

Hey everyone! So this past Wednesday was mine and Dan’s 3 year anniversary! Can you believe that?! At least it was the 3 year mark for when we officially became husband and wife for the military. It’s hard to believe that we wouldn’t officially live together until October of that year (despite having a large wedding in August) and in a whirlwind we would end up where we are today.

When we got married everyone told me that “time flies when you’re having fun.” I didn’t think it would go this fast. I have been so blessed to be able to savor my marriage so far, especially when I wasn’t supposed to be able to have so much time with Dan due to deployments. (What can I say? Getting sick has had SOME perks…) Some people say that they couldn’t spend all day everyday with their spouse, I say that I am sad for the day that Dan will return to work. Our time together has been something that I have cherished since it is something that doesn’t happen to everyone- even if the circumstances to get here weren’t great.

This past year has been one that has required great patience for both of us. I haven’t enjoyed being homebound and Dan hasn’t enjoyed being in school consistently. However despite the boredom, frustration and overall annoyance of chronic illness we have done some things to enjoy our year. So I’m going to give you the top things this past year of marriage. ๐Ÿ™‚

This past year we have:

  • Moved into our place Stateside!
  • De got a PICC Line
  • Dan has been stuck in school.
  • Attended Dan’s best friend’s wedding! (Congrats Nick &Jen!)
  • Been to D.C. so much we don’t need a GPS anymore.
  • Took a family vacation with De’s family.
  • Had a weekend where ALL of Dan’s siblings were home.
  • Dan got to go to the Army vs. Navy game (De was jealous).
  • We learned to love each other more deeply.

We have been so blessed this past year. It’s been an overall quiet year, but a tough year. My health has been such a journey for us and we’re grateful for those of you who are along with us for the ride. ๐Ÿ™‚ Thank you for your continued prayers for us as Dan continues to sacrifice and take care of me and for me as I push through the daily frustrations. We have truly been learning sacrificial love- and Dan has been amazing this past year as I have gone from a wheelchair to walking again, to the PICC line (ya’ll, he REALLY struggled with that), to having chest pains randomly (still do lol), to dealing with my seizures- he is just amazing, I am SO BLESSED.

Anyway, we love you all- thanks for celebrating our marriage with us. Sorry this post is a bit on the sappy side. ๐Ÿ˜€ I just thought I’d share what’s on my heart. I guess it’s true that love is just gets sweeter with time- because it really is sweet. Thanks for the prayers and we’ll keep you posted as we continue our little life adventures.

XOXO,

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The Many End of Year Adventures of Dan and De

Hey everyone! So I have a fair amount to catch you up on! Can you believe it?! Our holiday season hasn’t been super boring. However, I haven’t been that great at documenting it on camera. :/ What can I say? You win some, and you loose some. So, I have some good stories, but I don’t have great photos. Sorry. It is what it is. To be honest, it’s taken all I have to keep my head above water, or so it seems. My energy level has taken a dive with all the holiday stress, but hey- it’s a learning curve. Dan’s been handling me and my lack of abilities beautifully, he’s simply amazing and makes me rest even when I don’t want to. Have I mentioned how amazing he handles the fact that I’m chronically ill, even when I don’t want to admit it to myself?

Anyway, Thanksgiving was spent with Dan’s side of the family, which was wonderful. His mom cooked and the food was amazing. Compared to my family (There’s four of us when it’s just the immediate family, and by four I mean it’s mom, dad, Dan and I.) Dan’s family is HUGE. He’s the youngest of four, and while his brother is in Texas, there’s still a crowd. So it’s always fun. We got to catch up with some family from out of town and see our young niece. All in all, a very successful Thanksgiving.

Two days later we embarked on our Christmas gift from my parents. Yeah- being an only child has it’s perks and Dan is now experiencing some of them. ๐Ÿ˜‰ We went on a family vacation. It was super enjoyable. We enjoyed some time on the beach and while we weren’t always around one another, we did get to enjoy some family activities. My grandfather and step-grandmother even joined in on the family vacation. In the end, we all agreed that it was the most relaxing vacation that we have ever taken. Though, it probably had something to do with the fact that we all came and went as we pleased, we were all adults and there was PLENTY of food.

Once we got back, I barely had time to breathe, okay or that’s what it felt like. Because a few days later was the Army vs. Navy football game. Now, if you know us personally or read the blog regularly, you’ve figured out by now that Dan is in the Navy (for now at least). But this year, he had a special opportunity to go and volunteer at the game itself! Please understand that out of the two of us, I watch this game religiously, he could care less but yet because he is the service member, he gets to go volunteer and gets the free seats at the game! Yup, that’s how unfair life is. I must admit though, on game day, I wasn’t too mad since I had a party with some girlfriends and he got to freeze his butt off out in the cold. ๐Ÿ˜‰ Dan ended up coming home early, and we lost the game (first one in 15 years- just saying) but it was still a really fun day, and I’m hoping to have another football party next year since it was so much fun. ๐Ÿ™‚ Who knows, maybe it will become a tradition for us.

So the game was on Saturday, and then on Tuesday we were gone again, so this was a week and a half after being home I think, if that. We had to go to New Jersey this time. Can you believe that? What is in New Jersey you ask? Dan’s Command Christmas party. Yup, we had to drive there for that. Now, military events tend to scare me. There’s a lot of pomp and circumstance and formality, so I tend to try to look nice, be quiet and mind my manners. It works well. Especially since at this command I’m the wife who is really sick and my husband stays home and takes care of me. Dan and I don’t really know anyone here and we won’t get the chance to know anyone since Dan isn’t really working here, it’s just how this duty station will go, no big deal but it does make these type of events more awkward.

Before the Christmas party though, Dan had mandatory training. This left me in the hotel room all day. Part of me didn’t mind this since we had just been on vacation, had a football party and then driven to New Jersey, I needed the rest- all the rest I could get. I’m learning that I can’t do all the things I want to do anymore. My body likes maybe one big event per week and that’s about it, after that I need lots of sleep to keep up. However, there also wasn’t any food around. So this created a major problem for me. By the time we got to the party, I was struggling to stay my perky, well mannered self. In fact, at one point I’m pretty sure one of the other couples heard me say to Dan that I was going to eat my arm- oops. Oh well, they would have been in the same boat if all they had was a little bit of Starbucks early that morning too!

Luckily Dan and I sat with his division, or basically people he knows and because I go wherever Dan goes, I somewhat know when I’m not in the car. I also got to meet some of their wives, which was a nice change of pace for me. Unfortunately the food left much to be desired for us and caused me to becomeย physically ill. So Dan and I had to leave early. However, we still made the most of the evening by going to Outback Steakhouse for “real” food.

Finally, about a week later we come to Christmas. Can you believe all this? I told you we’ve been up to a lot. Just before we were to leave to spend Christmas with my parents, we met up with Kevin, my friend from college and now Dan’s good friend. He was in D.C. for training so we did dinner and dessert at a different location. Dinner was at an awesome restaurant that sounded like a family Pizza place but totally wasn’t, instead there was white table clothes, people in business attire, and a wine bottle art piece in the middle of the restaurant. The food was fantastic, but pricey, so we decided to take dessert elsewhere.We ended up at a pub that had coffee, specialty drinks and some awesome desserts. It was fantastic! At the end of the evening, we had to take Kevin back to the metro, which wasn’t a big deal- but here’s where things get interesting. Dan put his wallet on top of the car (something he NEVER does), put his coat in the back and then got in and drove off.

As we get on the on ramp to the highway, we hear a thud, and figure we had run over something. Dan asks what the sound was and Kevin says that something is laying in the road. Dan continues driving. We drop Kevin off and say we’ll see him later and then we head back home. Luckily, I have to use the bathroom so Dan starts looking for a place for me. When he finds a gas station, he decides to fill up and this is where things go south, fast. I come out of the restroom only to be half scared to death by my darling husband who informs me that his wallet isn’t in the car or on his person. We then realize the horrible reality before us, the thud we had heard on the on ramp was Dan’s wallet! We’re 45-minutes away, and we have no idea if the wallet is there. The wallet has all of Dan’s personal information, government ID’s and Christmas money we were given. Yup, this is really happening and it could only happen to us. Then the worst sinks in, we can’t visit my family if Dan doesn’t have his driver’s license, which is in his wallet.

So we decided to take a risk and go back to see if we could find it amongst the on ramp. But which on ramp was it? We text Kevin who’s phone was about to die and we begin to pray. Luckily Kevin has an awesome memory and could help us out and we between him and ourselves we remember where we were. Now time to backtrack. Dan gets off the on ramp and pulls off to the side, and against all odds we spot the wallet! Even more amazing we found all the cards and documents untouched including the Christmas money! God is so good! It was truly a Christmas miracle. Needless to say, Dan is making copies of everything in his wallet.

Now, Dan and I spent Christmas with my family. So it was just the four of us, which means that it was pretty quiet. We played a lot of games, had some great food, went to Christmas Eve service. However, our favorite part was confusing my father about his Christmas present. We bought him a creeper for his garage to help him work on his cars. The box was over half my height and just a big rectangle, he couldn’t figure out what it was, and we didn’t allow him to see it until Christmas Eve. I kept telling him “it’s something on your wish list.” To which he would reply, “I didn’t know I had a wish list.” And then I would sing, “I know what you’re getting for Christmas…” over and over again. Needless to say, it was fun. Mom enjoyed getting in on dad’s fun too since she knew what we got him, and she knew what her main gift was (mom doesn’t like surprises, though I still got her a small surprise- a Mr. Tea man who relaxes in her mug for her loose tea, yeah it’s funny) and could enjoy teasing dad. All I can say now is, sorry dad but you’re too easy to pick on.

Mom and dad spoiled us as always, we didn’t get as many material gifts this year but- as you read above, we got a vacation. A fully paid 5 day vacation. I got memories and my parents got us an ornament from the vacation for our tree, which was super sweet. It was also nice to collect memories over things.Hopefully it’s something we’ll consider doing again.

As we are going into 2017, Dan and I are excited for what’s to come. However, 2016 was a truly unique year for us. In 2016 we:

  • Celebrated our 2nd year of marriage.
  • Moved back to the United States
  • De got a PICC Line put in and taken out
  • De’s had a roller coaster in health
  • Dan has been busy in college
  • We took our 1st family vacation
  • Dan was in one of his best friend’s wedding
  • We went to my college best friend’s wedding
  • We’ve been able to spend more time with family
  • Dan got to see the Army vs. Navy game in person

Hopefully 2017 will bring on many fun adventures. Thanks for sharing in our life with us! We love you all and wish you the Happiest of New Years!

 

 

 

Thankful Thoughts

Hey everyone! It’s been about two months since we last had a chat, and I figured it’s about time to give you an idea of what’s going on in the life of Dan and De. ๐Ÿ˜‰ I mean, you just live to know all about our lives, right? Just kidding, I just know that a lot of you are praying for us- which is something that we cherish more than words can express, so I want you to know what’s going on and why I’ve been quiet.

The good news is, there isn’t much to report in regards to my health. So, I’ll give you a quick overview and then get to some fun stuff. ๐Ÿ˜€ So here’s the load down. I’ve been having some weird off-the-wall type symptoms. We’re talking head scratchers here. The one that had me totally freaked out is that I experience random chest/ heart pain and it’s pretty intense. Don’t worry, we’ve had a whole gambit of testing done and they can’t tell me what’s wrong. SO… basically I’m fine. It freaks Dan out though.LOL. I’m still having neuropathy in my feet and my hair is seriously falling out or at least that’s what it feels like.Oh, and I can’t forget my random little seizures- they’re my constant friends. Don’t worry though, you can’t tell when I have one, my eyesight just goes and for those of you wondering what it’s like, imagine having glasses to see and then taking off your glasses and EVERYTHING is SUPER blurry and you can tell where things are and that something is there and what color it is, just not fully sure what it is… THAT. So if that’s as bad as it gets, I’m not complaining.ย ๐Ÿ˜‰ I’m starting to get my fiery spirit back and while I can’t wake up at my desired 5am, I am usually up by 9am- which is an improvement from 1pm! So hey! I’ll take it!! So, am I getting better? Yes, slowly- like a sloth. Do I feel back to “me”- not really. I feel like there’s something I’m missing, but I’m still waiting to hear back if my Lyme is still active or if it’s in remission, and that will determine a lot about further treatment and where we go from here.

Now for the fun stuff- told you it would be quick on the health! This week is Thanksgiving, and it’s had me thinking a lot about how thankful I truly am for this crazy little life that Dan and I have been given. It hasn’t turned out anything like we thought (we thought that we’d be in our 2nd year overseas…) but everything has worked out for our greater good. I’m grateful for those who have been praying for us, those who have made meals for us, who have encouraged us and those who have simply walked along side us during this incredibly long journey and are sharing in our life with us. This blog was started to share our overseas life with you, and instead has simply become our mundane everyday life and how I’m doing health wise (let’s face it, it was scary last year- I have photos to prove it). I’m thankful for all of it. I’m grateful for a husband who makes me laugh and who provides for me and is studying like crazy this year (yup, that’s pretty much all Dan does). While right now our life is boring, I’m grateful for it. Do I miss walking the streets of Tokyo and going to eat Ramen? YES! I won’t deny it at all. But I’m so grateful to be back home with those who love us and to see friends and family who we didn’t think we’d see for three years at least.

In fact,ย a few weeks ago, all of Dan’s siblings were in town. Yes, we live near one but his sister from Connecticut came in with her daughter (her husband couldn’t make this trip) and his brother flew in from Texas. To give you an idea of how big of a deal this is, the last time everyone was altogether was at our wedding, just over two years ago. So my mother in law was thrilled to have all her kids home, and of course we got family photos to commemorate the occasion. These are the kind of things we miss out on when we live far away. While the reason we’re home isn’t a “good” reason, our time here is precious and we are cherishing it.

Now, I told you how much I cherish my husband our relationship. To give you an idea of “us” and how we are…just the other night Dan and I were driving home and the heat in our one car apparently isn’t the best (this was news to us). If you know me, you know I HATE the cold, and I’m not happy about winter making its debut. I’m REALLY not happy that I saw flurries and it’s only November, and I’m a wimp. Dan on the other hand is a human heater and can take the cold with a grain of salt. For some ungodly reason it doesn’t bother him. The following conversation ACTUALLY happened. I seriously need to record our conversations because I’m not exaggerating this…

Me: Dan it’s cold, turn down the air until it warms up. (I have the sweater he took off OVER my head like a hat.)

Dan: It’s not that bad there’s just a twinge of cold. Like when you take a bath and the water is warm but there’s just that twinge of cool water.

Me: That’s called cold water and AC! Turn it off I’m freezing!

Dan: (Laughing) That’s pretty good, okay.. okay.

*Waits a few minutes to turn back on the air to check it out*

Me: *Exasperated* Now it’s warm with a twinge of cool air!

Dan: At least it’s a twinge in the right direction.

Me: *Shakes head* I can’t win.

Folks, our lives may be super boring right now but we can at least entertain ourselves. Even our spats are funny. We certainly do have little everyday adventures. I’m thankful for my husband and the little life we share- even if it’s nothing like what we planned, I think it’s better than we could’ve planned.

Thank you for sharing in our adventures, the exciting ones and the boring ones. Thank you for your prayers and your support. Please know that we are truly grateful for you and we hope that you enjoy your peaks into our little life. Hopefully soon we’ll be back to having adventures and being more interesting. ๐Ÿ˜‰ We’re sending our love and we hope you have a wonderful Thanksgiving with family and friends.

Until next time,

De

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

When You Free-Fall Without A Parachute… Or So It Seems

Hey Everyone! Wow, it’s been just over a month since we last spoke. I promise I’m trying to get better at letting you know what’s happening in our lives, however I also don’t just want to write you and say, “Yeah, so Dan and I slept till 1pm..” (This actually happens more often than I care to admit). So ย I try to wait, and then sometimes it takes ย a while for something interesting to happen, so here it is.. over a month and now I have two cool things to tell you about…. maybe more if my brain functions and I think of them. ๐Ÿ˜‰

The first major thing I should probably inform you of, is that Ironwoman is no more. This is because I was having terrible skin reactions to the adhesive bandages as they were simply flushing the line waiting for my Lyme culture to be done. These reactions are so bad, that I actually have some scars from them, it actually freaked Dan out and now I don’t really care because I know I needed that PICC line, but it is a little weird looking. The thought process is now that if necessary, I can simply have another Ironwoman (yes, that is what I call these things because “PICC line” freaks me out when I know what they do) put in (JOY!..) if my doctor deems it necessary. I wouldn’t be shocked if later on I have another Ironwoman, but part of me does somewhat hope not to. She is a pain and I am a rare soul who can feel her in my body and more strangely, feel the medication go into my heart. Those are feelings, I do not miss.

Although, I must admit I have had some interesting symptoms since we’ve stopped all the medication. Don’t worry, I’m keeping track of all the quirks my body is experiencing, but some of them really are strange. I think the one that freaked me out the most at first was the day my heart decided to start hurting. Don’t worry- I’ve had it checked out and apparently my heart is fine, it just randomly hurts. All in the fun that is Lyme, I guess. ๐Ÿ™‚

Anyway, on to the fun parts of life. ๐Ÿ™‚ A couple weeks ago, Dan and I had a very special guest- Kevin, come to visit. Kevin is one of my best friends from college and has since become a great friend to Dan. Since he had some training for his job in Washington, D.C. he spent the weekend with us here in P.A. It was simply wonderful to see him and we got to really enjoy spending time with him. On Saturday, while Dan did homework, Kevin and I went to a local winery and then to a distillery for lunch. It was a blast! It was great to catch up like old times and then on Sunday, Dan and Kevin hit the internet for a while with a couple other people to play some games (being the boys). So needless to say, it was a wonderful time.

Other than that, life around here has been pretty quiet. We are simply waiting for the results from my Lyme culture and in reality it feels like waiting for forever, even though it’s only been about a week so far. We’re not really sure what is going to happen next, but we’re trusting that the Lord has me and our situation in His hands and that He will use this in some way for His glory. Dan and I are doing well overall and are simply taking everything as it comes. Thank you to all who have been praying for us as we simply wait for answers during this time. I promise to do my best to keep you up to date as things happen, just know that not much happens around here- just a lot of sleeping and resting. Currently, a lot of knitting and Gilmore Girls (yes, I’m excited for the “A Year in the Life” coming out on Netflix in November) ๐Ÿ™‚ For those of you praying, please continue to pray for perseverance for us. This has been a long, hard road and it doesn’t seem to be ending anytime soon. However, we will continue to walk this path trusting that God has the best plan for us. Sending all our love.

Until Next Time,

De